For Authenticity's Sake

05 January 2012

Trends. They come and go in this world, and there are some who live to follow them. They constantly go around, changing their colors faster than chameleons, and only succeeding in becoming a lonely echo of what they think they are meant to be. They want to be noticed, but because they're only doing exactly what everyone else is doing, they're ignored. 

In the community of inspiring and lovely Christian bloggers that I know, you'd think these trends would be nonexistent. Alas, we seem just as prone to this mistake as we go around and imitate "those bloggers" -- the ones with over 1000 followers and at least 30 comments on each post. The trends of the blogworld nowadays seem to be anything vintage, anything antique, lowercase letters, being adorkable, and being real. 

That last trend may sound somewhat odd -- why is being real a bad thing, you ask? Well, it's not . . . when it's really the focus. But when bloggers say "I want to be real", oftentimes all they're doing is copying the words of five others blog posts they read this morning. Their definition of "being real" is only an imitation, because they are only acting like an imitation. 

Just like how many friends you have on Facebook has become a status symbol, in the blogworld, how many followers you have and how many comments you receive measures you up. The more followers you have, the more people value your words, because they think you're "important." I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but I believe it needs to be said. Followers and comments do not define you! If you really want to be real, write reality. Don't say you love vintage and lowercase letters if you don't! Blogging is about being real, natural, and helping others to see the world through your eyes. We as Christians should blog to Christ's glory and for Him alone, not for comments!

I realized a while ago that I probably would never get a lot of followers. I don't take amazing pictures, my posts are not constantly amazing and inspiring, and I'm not perfect. But I know that I am a work in progress. I am but clay in the Potter's hand, and He is constantly molding and making me into the young lady He wants me to be. I may not be loved and adored by everyone in the whole world, but I'm loved by Him . . . and that's enough. 

Just so we're all clear . . . I'm an old-fashioned young lady named Elizabeth Rose. I love wearing  swirly skirts, reading books on rainy days, wordcrafting, dancing, anything and everything Irish, the bagpipes, British accents, Les Misérables, Italian food, and a good cup o' tea. I'm taking my second year of Spanish and hope to learn Italian, French, and German one day. My heart's greatest hope is to marry the man He has chosen for me and have a houseful of children someday. I'm a stubborn soul who is constantly reminded of how much I need my Saviour. It truly is a pleasure to make your acquaintance, and I hope you enjoy your stay here at Literary Lane.

To the followers I have: you each mean so much to me and I am truly grateful for you. It's hard for me to stay in touch with everyone, but I would love if you would leave me a comment and let me know how you found me and a little about yourself. I want Literary Lane to be a real community of friends, not followers, where we can gather together and enjoy a cup of tea and a respite from the stress of the world. I want my wee little blog to be a place of peace and rest. 

Ladies, I'd like to challenge each of you to something this week. Next time you go to post something on your blog, ask yourself, "Does this glorify God?" And then ask yourself, "If I saw this on a blog, with nobody pressuring me to like it or comment, would I enjoy reading it?" Because if you don't honestly enjoy what you're posting on your own blog, you have a problem. 

My followers do not define me. I am defined by my Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. He gave His life for me — He thinks I'm worth dying for. And that's ultimately all that matters to me. 

16 epistles:

  1. let's start a revolution!!! :) wow, thank you so much for posting this. you did an amazing job.

    I am not quite certain how I stumbled upon your blog, but I am very glad I did. I am sorry I don't comment as much as I would are a true kindred spirit that I would definitely like to become more acquainted with during this new year.

    much love and many blessings,
    come stop for tea @

  2. Oh wow, I'd written a post just hours ago inspired by Grace. Her post was quite influential, wasn't it? :) I also had the same type of thing asking bloggers to tell me a little bit about them. :)
    I love how you write, "But when bloggers say "I want to be real", oftentimes all they're doing is copying the words of 5 others blog posts they read this morning." It's so refreshing to hear someone actually say that, dear! Thank you. :)

  3. Ah, hurray for common sense! I've never been one to follow fashions or trends really, because I think it ridiculous how quickly they go out of style, and boy, are you old fashioned if you still have last Fall's template!
    Yes, well, I am not a lemming.

    I do confess however, to being victim to the Numbers {of followers and comments}. It's really easy to become disheartened when {in your opinion} the most inspiring post you've ever written gets only a comment or two. Dwelling on it can lead to self doubt and a host of other unpleasant feelings, if left to steep.
    You have just got to step back and put your head back on straight. Realize that Creation is much bigger than your blogger dashboard, and oh so much more interesting.

    A lovely, thought-provoking post, as per usual :) Thank you!

  4. "Because if you don't honestly enjoy what you're posting on your own blog, you have a problem."

    Yeah, I needed to hear those words. I've been stuck in a rut because I haven't been enjoying what I've been posting. So I've decided to quit pretending I'm perfect and popular and just write what God wants me to say. Thanks for the challenge!

    And I don't remember the first time I got on your blog... although I do remember helping you pick out your current blog name. ;) It's been fun watching your blog morph and change, and I enjoy your posts quite a bit. Keep on writing for Jesus!


  5. This is a lovely reminder, Elizabeth Rose, and so very true. We should be defined by Christ, not our followers.


  6. Dear Elizabeth,

    I want to tell you how this post really convicted me as well as encouraged me and reminded me very much of what the Lord has been speaking to me lately. I suppose because I'm just a beginner blogger I wanted to get more followers and comments, and I think I let that for a while be the motive for my blogging. But a few weeks back, through the help of my parents, the Lord convicted me of this and I've been really seeking God's help that He would make my blogging for His glory and not to become popular and acquire lots of followers. (I might post about it on my blog sometime, and this post of yours has encouraged me to at last)...

    I came upon your lovely blog by 'accident' sometime during 2011 and have been eagerly reading your posts from then on... your blog is a lovely place to stop by, and often I can get out from it blessed or inspired :). Also, since I found your blog, I had that feeling that I wanted to be friends with you from the time I got to 'meet you' :). I pray that we can get to know each other more in this new year.

    I pray God blesses you this new year and thank you for blogging for Jesus!
    In His love,
    ~Joy @

  7. Hi, Lizzy! I really enjoy your blog - especially your 'Sunday Blessings', which I miss, by the way.

    Anyway, this post rings true on so many levels. I'm sorta new to the blogosphere and pray that I don't slip into copy-cattedness, but it's amazing how many of the exact same posts pop up in my reading list!

    To be honest, I have no clue how I found your blog. It might have been one of those 'find this blog, look at authoress, click on blog that she follows...' kinda thing. But no matter, 'cause I'm happy I found it. :) It's so very encouraging.

  8. Amen! Loved this post. So true, especially what you said about it even being a trend to be real. It's hard - we all find ourselves at some point or another wishing we had more followers or comments.

    here's to being real, raw, and authentic in 2012.


  9. Oh-so-true! What really gets me are the lowercase letters, because I'm an absolute grammar freak, and that people willingly violate rules like that of capitalization is enough to drive me batty. Besides, why would you want to purposefully make yourself look illiterate? Why!? Anyway, that's my corner of the soapbox. Now let me get down and give you a hug.
    I'm obsessed with Ireland too.
    And thank you for posting in a God-honoring manner: your blog always has been a joy for me to read. Now, would you care for some tea?

  10. This post made me think! Thanks, I hope never to fall into that "following the crowd mode" as I like to call it.


  11. This was such a lovely post Lizzy. :)
    To answer your question, I cannot remember how I first found your blog, but it was definitely through another Christian blog. I can say the reasons I stayed: I'm old-fashioned too; I want to glorify Christ; and it's fun just indulging on those little feminine and literary things. I do find respite here, because I know you write about the things you love.
    Actually, I don't think all posts should be awe-inspiring, because it will become numbing. You know...too much of a good thing?

    I went through my own phase on my blog...and have come to my own convictions. I wish that the blogging community can open up to something more than an exclusive bloggers emerge all the time, and everyone should be welcome.

    God bless you Lizzy!

    --Liz B

  12. Wonderful post, Elizabeth Rose! I wholeheartedly agree with you. Something that has helped me avoid fishing for followers is that my little blog is private and for dear friends only. As a result, I have 5 followers, and probably won't be getting more anytime soon. That helps me be real, in the best sense.

    I'm not sure, but I think that I found your blog through Jo March, one of the aforementioned dear friends.

  13. I love this. I am always trying to convey this to young ladies in regards to many areas of their life. It is so refreshing to see someone who has got it!


    Mrs. W

  14. I do enjoy vintage because I, too, am truly an old-fashioned girl. I believe in blogging about things that uplift and encourage all who visit. What a fine objective to create a respite from the stress of the world, a place of peace and rest where friends can enjoy tea together. I shall visit often.

    ~From Jane to You~

  15. People love your blog because you are authentic! And God has blessed you with 250+ followers. :) Consider yourself lucky!


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