A Lesson From a Movie: Is "Tradition" Outdated?

31 October 2010

Today my post is going to be a bit different. I am starting a personal event titled A Lesson From a Movie. No, this is not a weekly or even a monthly event. This is simply whenever I find good values (or bad ones) in a movie, and I wish to share my thoughts on it, why I agree/disagree, etc. Being that Jo's fiesta for this week is book- and movie-centered, and we are allowed to post about our favorite movie(s)/book(s) for extra entries, I thought today would be a good day to start.

Theme: Tradition


Question: Is tradition outdated?

Song used to assist in proving of point: Tradition, Fiddler on the Roof movie soundtrack

Take a look at the "classic" American family: 2 parents, 2 children, and a dog. The children go to public school, the dad is a doctor, and the mom is an accountant. Maybe she works from her home. Maybe there's only a dad or a mom--not both--because the parents were divorced. (Keep in mind that this is just a stereotype--it is not always the case.)

Let us go even deeper than that. Let's say that the mom drives the car, while the dad sits in the passenger seat, because the mom "doesn't trust him." Let's also add that the children are constantly bickering and fighting, because they are so worn-out from being driven from school to soccer to ballet, and then home to eat a quick dinner, stay up a few more hours completing homework, and then roll into bed, only to wake up the next morning and start the process over again.

What's wrong with this picture?

To help you see what is wrong, I am going to pair each of my arguments with a verse from Tradition (key words are bolded):


Who, day and night, must scramble for a living,
Feed a wife and children, say his daily prayers?

And who has the right, as master of the house,
To have the final word at home?

The Papa, the Papa! Tradition.
The Papa, the Papa! Tradition.

Does the "classic" American family regard the father as the master of the house? Sadly, most don't. The father is just a space-filler, so to speak--it is the mother who drives the car, who manages the checkbook, who orders the appliances needed for the household. Where are the strong men of God who lead their families?

When a man's ways please the Lord, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him. ~Proverbs 16:7


Who must know the way to make a proper home,
A quiet home, a kosher home? Who must raise the family and run the home,

So Papa's free to read the holy books?

The Mama, the Mama! Tradition!
The Mama, the Mama! Tradition!

The mother is the maker of the home. She is not the leader, nor should she be. Many feminists today have planted this seed in our hearts that staying at home and raising a family is somehow "not good enough." Woman now have to go out and have jobs to be thought "good enough." "Women should be able to do everything that men can do," they  claim. But women and men have different roles! Of course we can't do everything that men can do! They are the leaders, and we (as women) are their helpmeets. 

In many circumstances, such a the wife driving the car, it is not just because she wants to "prove her abilities." Rather, women are made wanting leaders--that's how we work. If the husband is weak and not willing to be a strong leader, the woman naturally steps in and becomes the leader herself. 

A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety. ~1 Timothy 2:11-15


At three, I started Hebrew school. At ten, I learned a trade.
I hear they've picked a bride for me. I hope she's pretty.

The son, the son! Tradition!
The son, the son! Tradition!

I don't believe that we should have arranged marriages--the husband is to love his wife, and vice versa, and so marriages should not be arranged by the parents of the couple--but the line that I bolded has a good point. "At ten, I learned a trade." Children are told today that they should be children for as long as they can--that being an adult is "no fun." Just take the Toys 'R Us jingle: "I don't wanna grow up--I wanna be a Toys 'R Us kid." What kind of message is that sending to all the children who see those ads? Children who think that they don't want to grow up grow into adults who are constantly complaining about their lot in life. When children are raised to bear responsibility at a young age, they become men and women who do not complain as much, for they already have experience. 

Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from Him. ~Psalm 127:3

My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. ~Proverbs 2:1-6


And who does Mama teach to mend and tend and fix,
Preparing them to marry whoever Papa picks?

The daughters, the daughters! Tradition!
The daughters, the daughters! Tradition!

Again, I do not believe in arranged marriage. But let's look past the line that says "whoever Papa picks," and focus on the "preparing them to marry." Women are the caretakers of the home. But how can a young girl learn to be a good caretaker of her own home someday, if her mother never takes the time to teach her? The tasks that were considered extremely important just a century ago--sewing well, cooking adequately, managing a household--are thrown to the wind in favor of others, such as dance, soccer, volleyball, or cheerleading practice. No wonder woman are not prepared to be mothers when they are married! They are simply not receiving the right training. And the right training begins--not in public school--but at home.

Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them sup from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them. ~Deuteronomy 4:9

This concluded my first A Lesson From a Movie post. I hope you enjoyed, and I hope you truly take to heart what I have said. And to answer my question: no, tradition is most certainly NOT outdated!!

Remember to click on over to Jo's blog and view her fiesta for the week--this is the last day, so be sure to join in before it's too late! Also, remember to join her Movie Quotes Quiz --it's the last day for that, too! 

P.S. Here is the full video for the song "Tradition," so you can hear the music. :)

Fiesta de Octobre at SFMW ~ Fiesta 4

24 October 2010

This week is the last week of Jo March's Fiesta de Octobre! And this week's prize is the best of all! Here's a preview:

Exclusive Marie Madeline Custom Aprons
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Did you get the hint? Here's the answer: the winner will receive any pattern of their choice--NO COST--from Marie-Madeline Studio!! Click the link, and you will see what I'm so excited about--these ladies' products are just darling! 

Now that I have you excited, let's get down to all the details. The only mandatory thing you have to do to enter this giveaway is answer 20 questions written by Miss Jo, but if you want to have even more fun, why not do some of the suggested posts? It's all up to you!

(Note: for more information about this event in general, click the button. For info about this week's giveaway, click here.)

Here are my answers:

{1} It's nearly impossible to pick a favorite book, so what are your top THREE favorite books? (other than the Bible :D) It's nearly impossible to pick your top THREE favorite books! *sigh* But, I shall oblige you, Jo. My three top favorites are Anne of Green Gables (whole series), Pride and Prejudice, and the Little House books (whole series). And that's just brushing the surface!

{2} Who is your favorite heroine from literature? (if you need to list more than one, that's fine) I have several: Marianne Dashwood, Elizabeth Bennet, Anne Shirley, and Jo March. I can't say I like one of them over the others--I love them all for different reasons.

{3} Who is your favorite hero from literature? (see above note) Ooh, tough. I'll have to say the same as you, Jo: Gilbert Blythe and Laurie.

{4} Who is your favorite author? (see note above) I love the works of Jane Austen (bet you never knew! :) C.S. Lewis, and Laura Ingalls Wilder.

{5} What is your favorite type of book to read? Anything historical fiction, and surprisingly enough, that's my favorite type of book to write as well!

{6} If you could be a character from literature for one day, who would you be? Why? I would be Anne Shirley. She always seems to run into the most interesting of people--I think it would be very enjoyable to be her for a day.

{7} What type of reader would you call yourself? Are you an avid reader, passive reader, or even a non-reader? Avid, although a lot of what I read nowadays consists of schoolwork. Not that that's a bad thing. :)

{8} Do you like reading aloud? At times, when I want to read something in a different dialect or accent.

{9} Do you like mystery stories? I like some. The Nancy Drew books are very fun to read--one summer, my sister Bree and I tried to read through the whole entire series. I think we got to #27. 

{10} All of us have read a book at some point or another and disliked the way it ended or who married who, etc. What book(s) bother you like that, and what would you change about them? Well, it always really bothered me how Laurie did not marry Jo in the end of Little Women. Of course, Professor Bhaer is nice too, and if Jo had married Laurie, Fred Vaughn may have married Amy and that would not have been good, but still... For awhile after reading that book, I despised Louisa May Alcott, thinking her such an atrocious writer. Of course, my feelings have changed by now (and they are not so passionate in their hatred toward aforesaid authors) but I still wish Laurie had married Jo.

{11} Just like books, it's *very* hard to pick a favorite movie. What are you top THREE favorite movies? Fiddler on the Roof, Little Women (1995), and The Patriot. 

{12} When it comes to movie adaptions of books, are you a purist or do you not mind changes to the storyline? Nine times out of ten, yes, I am purist. But in the case of the 1995 version of Little Women, I actually like the movie a lot, despite the errors in the plot. That was the one movie that never seemed to bother me that way. Of course, the book is a lot better. :)

{13} What is your favorite book-to-movie adaption? Pride and Prejudice 1995 version. It was so perfect, even up to the characters' looks. I just love that movie. :)

{14} What is your favorite type of movie to watch? Book adaptions (if they are done well) and musicals. 

{15} Do you like to watch movies with the lights off or on? I like to watch them with the lights off, but my family likes to watch them with the lights on. 

{16} DVD or VHS? DVD.

{17} When you watch a movie, would you rather watch it straight through or skip around to your favorite scenes? Straight through--how else do you expect me to understand the movie and really get into it?

{18} Subtitles? As long as they aren't too attention-grabbing, yes.

{19} Do you make comments and ask questions during a movie, or sit in complete silence? I'd like to say I sit in complete silence, but my siblings would probably say otherwise. :)

{20} If you could be in any movie (whether it's already been made or not) which movie would it be? Who would you want to be and why? I'd love to be Amy in Little Women. I'd love to go to Europe, and I'd love to be able to paint like her, and I'd love to wear her dresses. :)

I think these were my favorite questions to answer--the topic was very interesting. :) Click here to join this event--you won't regret it. :)

Fiesta de Octobre at SFMW ~ Fiesta 3

22 October 2010

I can't believe that it is already time for Fiesta #3 of Jo's Fiesta de Octobre! This post o' mine will have two parts for, having been very busy as of late, I had to push this post off until the last minute, and therefore I have no time to write the suggested topics into separate posts. So bear with me, and dig through this bound-to-be-LONG post as best you can. :)

(Note: For info about this week's giveaway, click here. For info about the event in general, click the button.)

Fiesta #3 is titled "A Musical Interlude." Perhaps that will give you an insight into the questions... 

{1} What musical instrument(s) do you play? Sadly, none. :( Unless you count "playing" my grandmother's piano at age 7 for about 5 minutes. :)

{2} How long have you been playing that instrument(s)? Read above.

{3} What is your favorite era of music: Baroque, Classical, Romantic or Contemporary? I like a lot of Classical and Contemporary music.

{4} Why? (in reference to the above question) I think because I have grown up with both, and so they are imbedded in my blood. Listening to both classical and contemporary music brings back such sweet memories.

{5} Who is your favorite composer? (If you're drawing a blank, click here for a nice long list to pick from :D) Oh Jo, that list overwhelms me. How am I possibly to choose one composer? Let me say it this way: any music that makes me feel, that makes me think, or that simply seems to become a part of me as I listen to it, so beautiful the melody, than that composer is one of my favorites. 

{6} Do you like jazz music? Why or why not? I like some jazz, at times. The tune of it can be soothing. However, I would not consider myself a devoted fan.

{7} Are you one of those folks who could play their musical instrument for hours and love every minute of it? (or...just about every minute?) Again, I cannot play. :( Therefore, I have never experienced those moments when one just wants to keep playing and playing, soaring on the wings of music, for hours on end.

{8} Would you rather listen to music or play it? It appears I really have no choice, being that I do not play an instrument. Listening to music brings me great pleasure, though--one of my favorite pastimes. :)

{9} Do you like to perform in front of people, or would you rather not? I love to perform in front of people, although I have never played an instrument in front of an audience. I have been in dance recitals, though, and in plays, and if I am prepared and I know the steps to the dance or my lines, I enjoy it immensely. I hope that doesn't mean I'm vain... :)

{10} What's one thing you love about your instrument? Sorry--no instrument. :(

{11} What is your favorite genre of music to listen to? I really enjoy instrumentals, movie soundtracks, worship music, and a lot of old songs that my parents grew up with. Would you like to know my absolute favorite pieces of music? Look at my Mixpod on my sidebar. :) 

{12} Would you rather listen to an entire CD (or playlist) of just one artist, or a random shuffle list or CD? It really depends what the CD is, what is in the random shuffle list, and what mood I'm in. With some CDs, I love the whole album, whereas with others, I only enjoy one or two songs. 

{13} Do you like listening to movie soundtracks? YES! The Patriot, Fiddler on the Roof, The Sound of Music, Little Women, and Emma--just to name a few. 

{14} Does listening to music while doing schoolwork distract or help you? Oftentimes it helps me, if the music has no words.

{15} Radio, CD or iPod/mp3 player? Radio when I am in the car with my siblings; CD when I'm working in the kitchen, and iPod/mp3 player when I'm doing something by myself. 

{16} Do your siblings like to listen to the same music you do? Oh, yes! What kind of a family would we be if we didn't all enjoy the same music? :)

{17} Do you like to "sing along" with the songs you know, or would you rather just listen to them? Sing along hands down (which is why I love songs that I know the words to), although I'm making no promises about the quality of my voice, or of my ability to hit the notes properly. :)

{18} Do you like to listen to "old music", a.k.a. the music your parents listened to way back in the day? (not that our parents are old or anything....) Definitely! See question 11. 

{19} Do you like rap music? (random question, I know) Not. at. all. 

{20} Ready for Christmas music yet? Yes, yes, yes! I could listen to Christmas music all year round! Mary Did You Know has been my absolute favorite for years. 

And for part 2 of this post... my favorite song(s) and why I like them. 

Hymn to the Sea (Titanic soundtrack)

Before I say anything else, let me just say that I am not in full support of this film. I have not seen it myself, but I have heard from a few friends of mine that, although it has a good central plot, there are a few indecent scenes. Enough said. But the soundtrack... to quote Mr. Tumnus, "Music, ah, such music!" The songs are truly breathtaking. I love those bagpipes--they give the music such depth. This song makes me tear up sometimes... 

Rose (Titanic soundtrack)

Another song from Titanic. I love the very feel to this song. It just sounds beautiful, if you know what I mean. :)

The Seaside (Emma soundtrack)

Oh, this song has such a light, lovely feel to it. The music is beautiful and airy. I read on a blog that one young lady went down the aisle to this song, and I said to myself, "How creative--I want to do that!" Plus, I *love* this movie. :)

Little Women (full soundtrack)

Sorry, I can't find Part 4. :(

Another tear jerker, ladies. Listening to this whole soundtrack causes such a wave of emotion to wash over me. I can see the movie in my head, and so I do tear up when the "Beth dying music" plays. This music brings back such good memories for me. (And yes, Jo, I do know that this movie is not so accurate to the book. For once, I don't mind that, because this is the Little Women version I have grown up with.)

Matchmaker (Fiddler on the Roof soundtrack)

This song is such fun, because of the very humor of it. Plus, the relationships of the sisters remind me of me and my sisters. :) And you've got to love that music!

The Patriot (The Patriot soundtrack)

Wow. Words cannot describe how much I love this music; I suppose it is partly due to the fact that I love the movie. Click here to read a more thorough description of what I love about this film. And the music truly makes the movie what it is--it is the soul of the movie.

That's it! (And yes, I know all the songs were movie soundtracks. That's just who I am. :) And yes, there are MANY more. These were just a few. :) Head on over to Jo's blog and link up soon--this week's giveaway ends tomorrow!

Lovely Photo Wednesday :: What With All This Celebration...

20 October 2010

... and all these birthday-related topics, I think that this would be an appropriate photo for this week's Lovely Photo Wednesday:

I failed to mention that besides Bree's birthday today, two of my other sisters have birthdays this month: Emilia turned 10 on the 3rd of October, and Lydia turned 8 on the 16th. Not to mention my dad, who's birthday is the 10th. So October is quite the fiesta at our house!

Lovely Photo - Wordless or Not-So-Wordless Wednesday at Aspire

Click the button to join the fun at Hannah's Aspire!

Movie Quotes Quiz Answers ~ October 16th

16 October 2010

We only had 4 entries this month! :( I have a poll up on my sidebar, asking if we should continue Movie Night, if you ever join, etc. That poll will be up for about 2 weeks. Please remember to vote!

And because we had so few entries this month, a HUGE thank you to those who entered! You ladies are the sweetest! :)

#1 "He's got to at least *pretend* to work with these people. You must convince him."
     "I can't ask him to be less than he is."

--Max and Maria, The Sound of Music

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: Hannah M, Katherine Sophia, Emily Grace

#2 "My brother is a silly watchdog!"
     "Ah, my sister is a precious jewel!"
     "What am I, cut glass?"

--Maria, Bernardo, and Anita, West Side Story

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: none

#3 "We'd better keep an eye on this one. She's tricky."

--Michael, Mary Poppins

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: Quinlyn

#4 "Sometimes there seems like times that men ain't got no need for women."
     "There's some times women ain't got no need for men."
     "Yeah, but who wants to be dead?"

--Ado Annie and other girls, Oklahoma!

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: none

#5 "When I sit, you sit. When I kneel, you kneel. Et cetera, et cetera, et cetera."

--The King, The King and I

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: Hannah M, Katherine Sophia, Quinlyn

#6 "I wonder what grass tastes like."

--Kurt, The Sound of Music

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: Katherine Sophia, Emily Grace

#7 "Money is the world's curse."
     "May the Lord smite me with it. And may I never recover!"

--Perchiek and Tevye, Fiddler on the Roof

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: Hannah M

#8 "I'm sorry, dear, but when I chose [name omitted], I thought she would be firm with the children. She looked so solemn and cross."
      "My dear, never confuse efficiency with a liver complaint."

--Mrs. Banks and Mr. Banks, Mary Poppins

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: Hannah M, Quinlyn

#9 "I wanted to marry her when I saw the moonlight shining on the barrel of her father's shotgun."

--Ali Hakim, Oklahoma!

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: none

#10 "When what's left of you get's around to what's to be gotten, what's left to be gotten won't be worth getting, whatever it is you've got left."
      "When I figure out what that means I'll come up with a crushing reply."

--Phil Davis and Bob Wallace, White Christmas

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: none

#11 "Fraulein, is it to be at every meal, or merely at dinnertime, that you intend on leading all of us through this rare and wonderful new world of... indigestion?"

--Captain von Trapp, The Sound of Music

Movie Lovers Who Guessed Correctly: Hannah M, Quinlyn, Emily Grace

Katherine Sophia -- 6
Emily Grace -- 6
Quinlyn -- 6
Hannah M -- 8

And that means that our winner is...
Congratulations, Hannah! You won a blog button made by Hannah of Vivid Design Studio. Email her at aspireblog@hotmail.com, putting "I Won Elizabeth Rose's Movie Quotes Quiz" in the subject box. She'll give you all the details and let you know if there's anything you need to give her. I'm looking forward to seeing your new button up! :)

Remember to vote on the poll: "Should We Keep Movie Night?"
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